BZZZZ! Too Busy to Grieve
BZZZZ! Bzzzzz!
Buzzing around from here to there!
Buzzing to and fro
from who know knows where?
Unanswered questions in early morning darkness raised.
Four in the morning and contemplating the days.
What am I doing? How can I do this?
Fear of failure, dread and loss. Fear of losing others and myself.
Overwhelmed, driven, overworked to try to compensate.
Pride reduced to fight or flight and finally exhaustion.
No sleep; no rest. No personal best.
Learning good lessons at what price?
To the mind and body stressed and ready to break.
Lord, hold me; my redeemer.
I know you are at work in my life, but I am so sad, tired, and alone.
I know you are there as I can see the stars in the dark night.
Others counting on me to give my best.
Lord, please give me rest.
Open my heart and let the healing begin.
Release forgiveness and fill me with love, compassion, and joy.
I need you more than breath itself.
Life without you is darkness and void.
Protect my heart and the joy that you bring,
Raise my downcast spirit so that I may sing,
Of your enduring, compassionate love through out the days.
I will surrender and offer you the praise.
Busyness gives widows the false sense that they are in control when every area of life is as shaky as standing on jello. Widows believe they have lost their human protector, best friend, and soulmate. They are overwhelmed with providing emotional, spiritual, and financial responsibilities for their family and often do not take care of themselves or allow themselves time to grieve. Others commonly ask, "How are you doing?" The young widow asks herself the following question, "Do they really want to know? What will you do if I fall apart as I try to answer your question truthfully as the tears are brimming right now?" Instead, I reply "Fine" and then quickly excuse myself. Psalm 34:18: The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (NIV) This scripture is like a long, warm, hug to a widow from a friend when she understands that the Lord weeps alongside of her because of his compassionate love for her. Another incident of Jesus' compassion to a widow is found in the next scripture.Luke 7:12-15: As he approached the town gate, a dead person was being carried out - the only son of his mother, and she was a widow. And a large crowd from the town was with her. When the Lord saw her, his heart went out to her and he said, "Don't cry." Then he went up and touched the coffin, and those carrying it stood still. He said, "Young man, I say to you to get up!" The dead man sat up and began to talk, and Jesus gave him back to his mother. (NIV)As I have studied these scriptures, I am left wondering... Why did Jesus heal the son and not heal all others? Why is it significant that the scripture identifies the mother as a widow? Why did he ask her to stop crying? Of course a mother is going to cry when her child dies. Was it because he knew he would bring her a blessing by healing the son? I wonder what the son said to the mother after his miraculous healing?All I know is that Jesus had compassion on this mother and widow. Surely, he will have compassion on me, my children, and my circumstances. Allow the tears to flow and the healing to begin. Let the name of the Lord be praised!